Detaching

Detaching is always painful or uncomfortable whether it is from a person, food, location, job, belongings and addictions, but then it eases up, it gets easier with time. sometimes I see people being attached to their illness or the label they have been given, what is the pay off to stay connected to a condition or behavior?  Another part of detachment is doing good loving with no expectation of any thing in return. Detachment is the hardest and yet it gives us the space for something knew.